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A Collection of Resources for Christians to Engage in the Same-Sex Marriage Debate


The New York Times provides a Journalist’s Resource on the topic of homosexuality and same-sex marriage:


It strikes me that something similar would be helpful for Christians – providing access to a collection of resources that help us to understand and articulate why we do not support same-sex marriage.

UPDATE: The Gospel Coalition has just released a post with ‘50 Resources for Equipping the Church on Homosexuality and Same-Sex Marriage‘.

Sadly, this debate has now been lost in the United States. And no doubt this decision will add further fuel to the fire when Federal Parliament resumes in Australia after the Winter break.

I have been bookmarking resources in recent weeks, and have listed below a collection of the most useful. Thank you to my friends who have also shared these links with me. If you know of others that should be on this list, please let me know.

40 questions for Christians now waving rainbow flags (Kevin de Young)

“If you consider yourself a Bible-believing Christian, a follower of Jesus whose chief aim is to glorify God and enjoy him forever, there are important questions I hope you will consider before picking up your flag and cheering on the sexual revolution.” Read more… (see also ‘Time for a little Q&A‘ and ‘40 questions but only one question is needed‘)

As a gay atheist, I want to see the church oppose same-sex marriage

“Even as a (gay) atheist, I wince to see the philosophical mess that religious conservatives are making of their case. Is there nobody of any intellectual stature left in our English church, or the Roman church, to frame the argument against Christianity’s slide into just going with the flow of social and cultural change?” Read more…

A deeper debate on gay marriage (The Australian)

“…as Paul Kelly wrote on Saturday, the question of whether same-sex marriage would deny conscience rights to much of the population has been virtually ignored in the long, high profile same-sex marriage debate. Reconciling the right of same-sex couples to marry while protecting genuine religious freedoms will pose unprecedented challenges for legislators. The issue needs serious attention if Australia is to avoid same-sex marriage laws that are shallow and problematic and would open the way for sectarian divisions and protracted, costly litigation.” Read more…

A warning from Canada: same-sex marriage erodes fundamental rights (Witherspoon Institute)

“I want to warn America to expect severe erosion of First Amendment freedoms if the US Supreme Court mandates same-sex marriage. The consequences have played out in Canada for ten years now, and they are truly Orwellian in nature and scope.” Read more…

Christians react to the legalization of same-sex marriage: 9 key findings (Barna Group)

“A new Barna survey conducted in the wake of the ruling reveals nine key findings that will help make sense of where Americans stand—and what’s next in this divisive conversation.” Read more…

Christians: Speak up (Fixed Point Foundation)

“I would argue that now, more than ever, we need Christian people to speak up for their faith, to articulate their beliefs in sensible and courteous ways. Our society needs a reminder of our foundational beliefs in honesty, faithfulness, right and wrong.” Read more….

Christians who oppose gay marriage prepare for a tough time (Bible Society)

“Knowing how to talk about the current same sex marriage debate as a Christian who opposes it is tough, and Christian leaders from around the country say it’ll only get tougher as claims of the inevitability of same sex marriage get louder.” Read more…

Dear Gay community: your kids are hurting (The Federalist)

“Same-sex marriage and parenting withholds either a mother or father from a child while telling him or her that it doesn’t matter. That it’s all the same. But it’s not. A lot of us, a lot of your kids, are hurting. My father’s absence created a huge hole in me, and I ached every day for a dad. I loved my mom’s partner, but another mom could never have replaced the father I lost.” Read more…

Defining and defending Christian marriage in an age of redefinition (Sandy Grant)

The audio of the recent public lecture by Senior Minister of St Michael’s Anglican Cathedral, Sandy Grant. Listen here…

Do you love me? Putting the carriage before the horse in the same-sex marriage debate (David Ould)

“Marriage may often be the consumation of love, but it does not require love in order to be consumated. Do they go together like a horse and carriage? Often, yes. But not always. Love is the carriage which the horse of marriage very, very often pulls along. Love is not the horse which pulls the carriage.” Read more…

Everything has changed and nothing has changed — the Supreme Court legalizes same-sex Marriage (Albert Mohler)

“The threat to religious liberty represented by this decision is clear, present, and inevitable. Assurances to the contrary, the majority in this decision has placed every religious institution in legal jeopardy if that institution intends to uphold its theological convictions limiting marriage to the union of a man and a woman. This threat is extended to every religious citizen or congregation that would uphold the convictions held by believers for millennia. Justice Clarence Thomas warned in his dissent of “ruinous consequences for religious liberty.” Read more…

Gay law change may force us to divorce (Nick Jensen)

“Our view is that marriage is a fundamental order of creation. Part of God’s intimate story for human history. Marriage is the union of a man and a woman before a community in the sight of God. And the marriage of any couple is important to God regardless of whether that couple recognises God’s involvement or authority in it. My wife and I, as a matter of conscience, refuse to recognise the government’s regulation of marriage if its definition includes the solemnisation of same sex couples.” Read more… (see also Nick’s follow-up interview with the Bible Society)

God, the Gospel, and the gay challenge — a response to Matthew Vines (Albert Mohler)

“There are a great host of people, considered to be within the larger evangelical movement, who are desperately seeking a way to make peace with the moral revolution and endorse the acceptance of openly-gay individuals and couples within the life of the church. Given the excruciating pressures now exerted on evangelical Christianity, many people — including some high-profile leaders — are desperately seeking an argument they can claim as both persuasive and biblical. The seams in the evangelical fabric are beginning to break and Matthew Vines now comes along with a book that he claims will make the argument so many have been seeking.” Read more…

Human Sexuality and the ‘Same Sex Marriage’ Debate

“The following pages represent the work of the Sydney Diocesan Doctrine Commission in response to a request from the Archbishop of Sydney in late 2012.” Read more…

I’m gay, and I oppose same-sex marriage

“At its core, the institution of marriage is all about creating and sustaining families. Over thousands of years of human civilization, the brightest minds have been unable to come up with a successful alternative. Yet in our hubris we assume we know better. Americans need to realize that same-sex relationships will never be equal to traditional marriages. You know what? I’m okay with that.” Read more…

I oppose same-sex marriage (and no, I’m not a bigot) (Michael Jensen)

“We are told there are those in favour of same-sex marriage, and then there are the bigots. But allow me to make the case for traditional marriage as being between one man and one woman.” Read more…

It’s all about the children, not selfish adults (The Australian)

“I oppose discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation and support legalising civil partnerships. But, I also believe that marriage should remain defined as being between a man and a woman.” Read more…

Jesus Centered Talking

A sermon from Marcus Reeves at Crossroads Christian Church in Canberra. Listen here…

Marriage Brief (Australian Christian Lobby)

The Australian Christian Lobby has produced a helpful briefing document on the purpose of marriage, and some of the threats to children and freedom. Read more….

Same-sex intimate unions

An article by the Principal of Moore Theological College, Mark Thompson. Read out more…

So-called same-sex marriage: lamenting the new calamity (John Piper)

“My reason for writing is to help the church feel the sorrow of these days. And the magnitude of the assault on God and his image in man.” Read more…

Stylish same-sex campaign glosses over real issues (Peter Jensen)

“Same-sex marriage is not inevitable. It is not even possible. It would be better for us all if the law reflected the truth human beings have always known. Social engineering cannot change realities as basic as these. But the consequences of an attempt may still be painful.” Read more….

The Bible and sames-sex relationships: a review article (Tim Keller)

“There are a number of other books that take the opposite view, namely that the Bible either allows for or supports same sex relationships. Over the last year or so I (and other pastors at Redeemer) have been regularly asked for responses to their arguments. The two most read volumes taking this position seem to be those by Matthew Vines and Ken Wilson. The review of these two books will be longer than usual because the topic is so contested today and, while I disagree with the authors’ theses, a too-brief review can’t avoid appearing cursory and dismissive.” Read more…

The fight for same-sex marriage in Australia is far from over (Senator Eric Abetz)

“Even the petitioners in the US case conceded they were not aware of any society that permitted same-sex marriage before 2001. Just 14 years ago.” Read more…

The intolerance of tolerance (Greg Koukl)

“Most of what passes for tolerance today is not tolerance at all, but rather intellectual cowardice. Those who hide behind the myth of neutrality are often afraid of intelligent engagement. Unwilling to be challenged by alternate points of view, they don’t engage contrary opinions or even consider them. It’s easier to hurl an insult–“you intolerant bigot”–than to confront the idea and either refute it or be changed by it. “Tolerance” has become intolerance.” Read more…

The irony in the quest for equality (Con Campbell)

“Facebook friends will immediately flee and label me a bigot just for the title of this piece. Most of them will not read what we have to say because they can reach their conclusion simply on suspicion that we might be on the wrong side of marriage equality. A great irony is embedded in that fact. And it’s an irony we must understand.” Read more…

The next culture war (The New York Times)

“I don’t expect social conservatives to change their positions on sex, and of course fights about the definition of marriage are meant as efforts to reweave society. But the sexual revolution will not be undone anytime soon. The more practical struggle is to repair a society rendered atomized, unforgiving and inhospitable. Social conservatives are well equipped to repair this fabric, and to serve as messengers of love, dignity, commitment, communion and grace.” Read more…

The terms of our surrender (The New York Times)

“…there’s another possibility, in which the oft-invoked analogy between opposition to gay marriage and support for segregation in the 1960s South is pushed to its logical public-policy conclusion. In this scenario, the unwilling photographer or caterer would be treated like the proprietor of a segregated lunch counter, and face fines or lose his business — which is the intent of recent legal actions against a wedding photographer in New Mexico, a florist in Washington State, and a baker in Colorado.”

“But it’s still important for the winning side to recognize its power. We are not really having an argument about same-sex marriage anymore, and on the evidence of Arizona, we’re not having a negotiation. Instead, all that’s left is the timing of the final victory — and for the defeated to find out what settlement the victors will impose.” Read more…

Upholding the ‘Honourable Estate’: why it makes sense to oppose same-sex marriage (Andrew Errington)

“What I want to do here, therefore, is to attempt to recover and draw out the deep underlying issue at the heart of opposition to same-sex marriage – an issue that is not always clearly understood even by the conservative opponents of same-sex marriage, but which an older generation would have understood implicitly. Hopefully, this will aid mutual understanding, and may perhaps also reveal some potential common ground when it comes to the deep issues of recognition at stake for gay and lesbian people.” Read more…

What really happened in Ireland’s gay marriage election

“Last Friday’s 62% vote in Ireland to legalize “gay marriage” has been hailed as a triumph of progressive thinking by the mainstream media and the political establishment. The outcome shocked many in the pro-family movement. But what the mainstream press isn’t reporting is even more shocking.” Read more…

What would Jesus do? (about same-sex marriage)

“What I do know is what he wouldn’t do. Jesus would never sin. He would never go against his Father’s Word or law. He came to fulfill it, not to destroy it. I know that he comes to save and not to condemn and yet he still calls sin, sin. I know that Jesus was gentle and mild, but he was not ‘nice’. He spoke the truth bluntly – especially to religious and political leaders. He didn’t play politics, or do back room deals. And he was incredibly radical, pointing out that following him was a cross and that anyone who wanted to had better forget popular acclaim and instead be ready for persecution.” Read more…

Why not gay marriage? (Kevin de Young)

“I’m concerned that many younger Christians—ironically, often those passionate about societal transformation and social justice—do not see the connection between a traditional view of marriage and human flourishing.” Read more…

Yes, gay marriage hurts me personally (The Blaze)

“The “it doesn’t affect us” mantra has become one of the more common, and absolutely the most damaging, idea circulating through the ranks of the defeatists. It’s a gross and ridiculous lie, one which accomplishes the impressive feat of being wrong in two different ways. It’s wrong when it says we should only care about things that have an impact on our lives, and it’s wrong when it says gay marriage will have no impact on our lives.” Read more…

Zero tolerance to tolerance is just intolerance (CityNews)

“I’m neither bent nor bigoted, but I am confused. Baffled would be a better word. Baffled by the appalling attitude and blatant hypocrisy displayed by people who demand a tolerant and inclusive society, but fail to apply it to people who don’t share their opinion.” Read more…

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  1. Lionel Windsor

    July 20, 2015 at 9:20 pm

    Hi Steven, this is a great list of resources and thanks for putting it together. It’s so important that Christians are well-informed about these issues. Just to let you know that about a week after you posted this, Mark Thompson here at Moore College wrote a piece that I think will be of great help to people: . God bless, Lionel.

  2. Steven Kryger

    July 20, 2015 at 10:29 pm

    Thanks Lionel, I’ve just added this to the list.

  3. Lionel Windsor

    July 20, 2015 at 10:49 pm

    Thanks Steven 🙂

  4. Jason Kennedy

    August 19, 2015 at 8:24 pm

    Thanks so much Steven, super helpful. Need to go through these more in depth when I have time! Thanks for saving me time collecting these for the next few months.

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