“I mean to make myself a man, and if I succeed in that, I shall succeed in everything else.” – James A. Garfield
How do you become a man?
Over the weekend I read Play the Man by Mark Batterson. It’s very easy to read and explores what a man of God looks like and provides guidance for fathers as they help their sons become men.
Batterson helpfully shares how he sought to lead his sons in a ‘Year of Discipleship’ with physical, spiritual and mental challenges. The year culminated in a rite of passage and as a father of two young sons, this book and these practices left me with a lot to think about.
- Is my version of Christianity worth dying for?
- What are my sin triggers?
- Who am I willing to offend?
- Who do I need to goad and who have I licensed to goad me?
- How can I be more childlike?
- How can I be less childish?
- What will my kids remember from their childhood?
- What boundaries do I need to put in place to protect myself, my marriage and my family?
- What decisions against myself do I need to make?
- What am I tolerating?
- Who are my pacemakers and who am I pacing?
I also appreciated this reminder:
“You’ll never be a perfect parent but you can be a praying parent.” – Mark Batterson